B is for [Take a] Bow - by Nan Brooks
There is no accounting for what captures my imagination or my memory these days. Recently I’ve been pondering bows. Not the sort one ties on packages, but the kind one takes for an accomplishment, usually in public. Bows are difficult.
Long ago, when I began doing one-woman theatre pieces, I felt awful taking a bow - like I was being greedy or arrogant or something. A friend kindly and firmly pointed out to me that I was terrible at curtain
calls. “You are rude to your audience when you don’t happily acknowledge their
applause, she said. “You just talked to us for almost an hour and this is our
chance to express ourselves back to you. Try to look like you care, like you
actually enjoy hearing us.” I was startled, even alarmed to realize that she
was right. I was being rude, the opposite of what I felt. I felt humbled, and very much so. For a while, I had
to fake taking a bow – smile and actually listen to the applause. As time went on, I came to enjoy the curtain
calls, after all.
One-person shows are not the result of one person’s work –
it takes a team of experts and hard working ones at that, to get a show on the
boards. So when I began doing solo performances, I demanded that the unseen
artists and technicians take a bow with me. They resisted, they argued, they
refused. I tried the philosophical approach: “As women (and we were all women),
we accustomed to other people taking
credit for our work, we’re socialized to be self-effacing and not to seek public
approval for our work”, I said, “So it is our responsibility to break that
pattern for ourselves and our audiences.” Everyone nodded. “So you are going to take the
curtain call with me.”
“Oh no, we’re not!” they answered, with a little profanity for
good measure.
“Then I’m not going to do take a bow either,” I played my
last card. More discussion ensued and
they promised to take a bow with me. When the time came, they stood in the wings
and refused to move. I embarrassed them into coming onstage, where they were even
more embarrassed. I explained to the audience that they had made the show
happen and they deserved to be thanked. Thunderous applause!
I have made a study of bows: the full curtsey, the half
curtsey, the chin-up forward bend, the hand-on-heart full forward bow, the arms
wide non-bow bow. Like any other body
language, each one says something different.
I once worked with a particularly rude actor who said out
the side of his mouth as we were practicing the curtain call for a large-cast
musical, “I never let them see the top of my head. Demeaning.” He was a proud,
albeit highly insecure man, who bullied everyone around him. I was moved to
tenderness toward him when he made such a remark. He unwittingly spoke about
his own vulnerability. Somehow, exposing the top of his head the audience was
inviting – what? – a sword? It did not
make sense at the time because we were on a stage at the base of a steep
theater that surrounded the stage on three sides. The audience could see the top
of his head throughout the show. But there was something about bowing before
authority, or before one’s enemies, something sort of primal in his refusal to
lower his chin as he bowed. At every performance he stared defiantly forward at
the audience while bending at the waist.
The curtsey is an odd thing, reserved for royalty these days
unless one has just performed a period piece and bows are directed to be in
keeping with the play. I had an exacting
director almost thirty years ago who demanded such correctness at the end of a
Moliere play. So there we were, the women in corsets and long full skirts and
very low necklines, expected to execute the perfect curtsey. It goes like this:
transfer your weight to the foot closest to the nearest person (usually a man
as curtain calls generally go). This avoids injury to your bowing partner as
the cursey continues. Point the opposite foot (furthest from one’s partner) directly
in front, then sweep it in a broad outward circle all the way to the back of
that supporting foot. While thus balanced, you might put a little weight on
that sweeping foot. Bend your knees until you are almost to the floor and bow
your head. Slowly count to three. Then stand smoothly and gracefully from that
low squat, avoid catching your heel in your skirt or petticoats, and return to
standing on both feet. Smile all the while; do not look worried. I should say
that if one is fortunate, she has a male partner for such a bow because he can,
if he is willing, help her maintain her balance and even haul her up out of
that low squat. I once did such a
curtain call with a newly-broken tailbone and had the great good fortune to
have kind men on each side of me. Everything went silent and gray for a few
seconds as I stood up in a lot of pain, but the gents held me up and one of
them said, “Hang on!” through his smile as he squeezed my hand. Kindness gets us through every time.
We are all accustomed these days, I think, to the arms-wide
non-bow bow of shared triumph. It is standard for politicians and mega stars,
but most endearing when spontaneously performed by truly happy artists. Sometimes
it happens before the performance/speech/concert even begins. The crowd cheers
and the person walks onstage, arms high like a cheerleader making a wide V. This
bow, usually before a very large crowd, says to me, “Aren’t we all wonderful
and happy?” The variation, with arms
spread horizontally, tells me the performer wants to reach out and hug everyone
in the audience all at once. I did it once and felt quite exposed, but that may
have been because it was outdoors and a stiff breeze was blowing.
So, now that you have thought along with me about bowing technique
and how hard it is sometimes to take credit and celebrate our accomplishments,
I invite you to take a bow some time in the next 24 hours. Take a bow when you
feed the dog and see what the dog does (if said canine notices despite the food,
that is). Take a bow when you walk into your office, including via Zoom. (This setting probably requires the modest
hand-on-heart, lowered chin bow. You can show them the top of your head or not,
your choice.) Take a bow when you see
yourself in the mirror first thing in the morning and/or after you brush your
teeth. Extra bows for flossing.
Give bowing a try and see how it feels. Take a bow – you deserve
one several times a day, no doubt about it.
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